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Will I be held accountable for my husband’s tithes? I work & I give my 10% in my offering. He is a christian, says he wants to give 10%, but acts differently when I write out the check (I have to ask him how much his check is). I told him to take care of his and i’ll take care of mine. Sure enough he hasn’t given his in 2 months.


This is more a question about spiritual responsibility, than it is a question about giving.

In one respect, both husband and wife are equally responsible for each other. Each spouse has a duty to lovingly communicate with the other about things that may need attention (such as a spirit of grudging giving).

Overall however, the husband has spiritual responsibility to be the Godly leader for his marriage. In what you describe, your husband has not only failed to honor God with generous and cheerful giving, but he also fails to honor God by setting the example for you.

It is your responsibility to give cheerfully as well, but my ADVICE (not Scripture) to you would be NOT to separate this activity from your husband’s participation. By continuing to involve him at the time you choose what to give, your faithfulness may serve to convict him, and prick his conscience. Your example will consistently remind him of his need to honor God with giving, and just as important, hopefully convict him that he is not being the spiritual leader God intends for him to be.

But you must do this with humility, respect and a motivation of love.

No person is held accountable for the sin of another. God will only hold you accountable to love your husband, to submit to him (as long as he does not ask you to violate your Spirit-led conscience), and to continue to be an example of Godliness, a quiet spirit, and purity….

1Peter 3:1-7: Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, 2 when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear. 3 Do not let your adornment be merely outward–arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel– 4 rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.